Support named placeholders wherever numeric ones are allowed

[zcourts]

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge?

The work done in #8245 moved this forward. I'd like to request/suggest expanding it to cover the two cases explicitly ruled out by the original work.

It makes just as much sense when inserting/updating/deleting to use named placeholders as it does in select.
We and our customers are commonly writing inserts that have 5, 10+ numeric placeholders and it is harder to work with/keep track of and have lead to several typo/bugs that named placeholders would have made less likely, if not ruled out altogether.

Describe the solution you'd like

Add the ability to use named placeholders - from what I can see the handling of insert_into_plan can be made to be the same as it was in the PR be replacing the current impl https://github.com/apache/datafusion/blob/main/datafusion/sql/src/statement.rs#L1428 with usage of https://github.com/Asura7969/arrow-datafusion/blob/6480020e695ebbe2b81e8971c3ee0e9e7ec124b0/datafusion/common/src/param_value.rs#L68

Describe alternatives you've considered

No response

Additional context

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