Replace RwLock<HashMap> and Mutex<HashMap> by using DashMap

[yahoNanJing]

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In Ballista, we have replaced RwLock<HashMap> and Mutex<HashMap> by using DashMap in many places. And the performance improved a lot. Therefore, it's time for the datafusion to leverage DashMap, too.

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