Do the gateway service parsing while parsing the configuration

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It's currently done while reconciling, but since it's independent from the knative ingress, it could be done once, while parsing the configuration

Reference: https://github.com/knative-extensions/net-istio/blob/release-1.13/pkg/reconciler/ingress/resources/gateway.go#L382

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