chore: Update GPU patterns to use new AL2023 NVIDIA AMI variant and latest EKS 1.31

[bryantbiggs]

Description

• Update GPU patterns to use new AL2023 NVIDIA AMI variant and latest EKS 1.31
• Update EKS module to latest minor version
• Update NVIDIA device plugin references to use latest chart and remove affinity rule; the label used on the node groups matches the default affinity so this is no longer required
• Update EFA device plugin to latest version
• Add most_recent = true to VPC CNI plugin since new features are being added on the latest version and this will avoid trying to use a feature on an older version of the CNI

Motivation and Context

• Resolves #

How was this change tested?

• Yes, I have tested the PR using my local account setup (Provide any test evidence report under Additional Notes)
• Yes, I have updated the docs for this feature
• Yes, I ran pre-commit run -a with this PR

Additional Notes

[bryantbiggs]

pending deployment testing - will filp to ready once done

[bryantbiggs]

needs terraform-aws-modules/terraform-aws-eks#3177 - used local source to these changes for testing