*: track the memory usage of IndexJoin more accurate (#29068)

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cherry-pick #29068 to release-5.2
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What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #28650

Problem Summary:
The memory usage of indexJoinBuilderHelper.buildTemplateRange and indexRangesToKVWithoutSplit is not tracked. Thus we can not cancel the SQL which uses IndexJoin with huge nextColRanges even if it costs a lot of memory.

What is changed and how it works?

After this commit, the SQL can be cancelled when reaching the memory quota.

Check List

Tests

• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

test.txt

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
  But this regression can be ignored since the newly added memory tracking is a low-frequency action.

Documentation
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Release note

Track the memory usage of IndexJoin more accurate.

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/run-all-tests

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