operator: make gRPC connections synced (#52051)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #52051

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #52049

Problem Summary:
See the issue.

What changed and how does it work?

This added a mutex for each stream.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
  This reuses the unit test before.
  It should be transparent.
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No need to test

  • I checked and no code files have been changed.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/check_dev	8c11080	link	true	/test check-dev
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/build	8c11080	link	true	/test build
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/unit-test	8c11080	link	true	/test unit-test

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