replace spinlock with sharedmutex

[pengweisong]

What type of PR is this?

• bug
• feature
• enhancement

What problem(s) does this PR solve?

Issue(s) number:

#4264

Description:

As said in RWSpinLock

You most likely do not want to use RWSpinLock or any other
kind of spinlock. Use SharedMutex instead.

In short, spinlocks in preemptive multi-tasking operating systems
have serious problems and fast mutexes like SharedMutex are almost
certainly the better choice

SpinLock have serious problems in heavy contention situation.

How do you solve it?

Replace them with SharedMutex

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