Make the quic server connection table use an async lock, reducing thrashing

[ryleung-solana]

Problem

Usage of sync locks on the quic server can cause thrashing when under lock contention

Summary of Changes

Use async lock

Fixes #

[lijunwangs]

LGTM, good catch!

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