dep: update parser to lastest

[lance6716]

What problem does this PR solve?

close #1227

What is changed and how it works?

update parser (and its needed library) to latest.

Check List

Tests

• No code

Code changes

Side effects

• Possible performance regression

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch

[lance6716]

I suspect that tidb-tools need to update some code, to keep compatibility of pingcap/parser#1021 . now some test failed because of sync-diff error

[csuzhangxc]

I suspect that tidb-tools need to update some code, to keep compatibility of pingcap/parser#1021 . now some test failed because of sync-diff error

If it's too hard to fix, we may keep parser as the current version for this 2.0.0 release.

[lance6716]

/run-all-tests

some test runs slowly (both ci and my local)

[lance6716]

for sequence_sharding: need to add a sleep 10 to pass check_sync_diff (pass at retry 7th). I suspect that there's a performance regression, we should not merge this PR before further test

[lance6716]

replaced by #1289